Barbara, I enjoyed the spirit of your post and I would like to add a thought or two.
I kept thinking about how does respect work especially in fields of art, intellectual pursuits, and cultural change? It’s not like in tennis where you can prove you’re the best for that day or year.
Careers and egos in these fields are particularly fragile even more so when all the time, energy, and goodwill have, more often than not, little in terms of acknowledgment or financial gain. There are so many wonderful, hardworking, intelligent people here and quite a few who have spent quite a bit of love working to supply values to themselves, others, and the culture.
Crossing people who have done nothing but bring out their best is only going to tweak their self-esteem and then it is only a matter of time before they pop. Sometimes when I receive a queer reply I think “what the hell am I doing here?” And it is amazing how a truly insignificant and thoughtless comment can throttle your mind for longer than one would wish.
I often think then about history and what are the actions and the works that will cut through the crap of pettiness and have long term value.
For example I think that Lindsay is a great activist and I am sure that he will be an historical figure. And, yes, I understand that he is fighting for passion and beauty in the arts.
I don’t know how one gets the full concretized feeling of respect in other fields…I know I have a wonderful profound feeling when I experience one of my works living in someone’s home or environment.
Perhaps that is question that should be asked by many here: what is the form of respect, and by whom, are you looking for? I think then it makes one think twice about who is rubbing them wrong and, perhaps, encourage them to seek out the wonderful people that make them feel visible.