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Post 80

Sunday, May 8, 2005 - 7:40pmSanction this postReply
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I was thinking we may be getting to the point of repetition soon in this debate (which is where I stop, or when I feel my detailed arguments are not engaged). But I think there is an underlying disagreement here about human developmental psychology. I may be able to formulate one more post about that more specifically.... but it's tricky, partly introspective. We'll see.

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I hope you all don't mind, but I would like to get back to the basics. Which of the following positions give ME the greatest advantage to achieving my goals:

To teach (and live by) a code that an individual's values pre-empt everyone else's.
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To teach (and live by) a code that it is justified to use force to help people do what is best for themselves.

Isn't the later option kind of um... a bad idea? Yea...

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Post 82

Sunday, May 8, 2005 - 8:25pmSanction this postReply
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I've been following this discussion with interest. We will not be sending our kids to school. I used to be of the "adult knows best and should impart knowledge to the child" mindset. But then I realized that I always learned best as a child when left to my own devices. Through research, discussions with Kelly, David and Aquinas, as well as with other non-Objectivist friends who homeschool, I'm now leaning more toward the unschooling approach. I'm still learning and thinking about this subject. I found John Holt's "Teach Your Own" an extremely interesting and informative book and I highly recommend it to anyone not familiar with unschooling.

One thing that I'm wondering, and have been talking over with my husband, is that it might help to state the definition of education, or state the goal of education. Maybe-- the goal of education is the acquisition of knowledge/skills necessary to pursue one's values and live independently (supporting oneself). If it's defined that way, I think it lends credence to the idea that Shakespeare and quantum mechanics are not necessary for everyone to know in order to pursue their values. Reading, yes. Some math, definitely. We're trying to figure out what the bare essentials a person needs to learn are.

I might add that we (my husband and I) are looking at this idea from several angles. First, we are recalling our childhoods and various education experiences--woulda, coulda, shoulda. We're also thinking about this as we're considering our children's futures and education.

But for me and my husband, we have another, rather unique angle here. My husband's brother, Tim, is developmentally disabled and, at 31 years of age, not able to live independently. Tim is and will probably always be about 10-12 years old mentally. At this point in his life, he has enough education to pursue many of his values, namely, music and lawnmowing. He can read and write, and takes initiative when wanting to know more. He's teaching himself to play keyboards and bass guitar, and reads and memorizes musical facts, for example. However, he lacks some basic knowledge and skills that will hinder his ability to ever live on his own. A primary example of this is his weakness in math and money. He has no concept of money, subtraction is a mystery, and without supervision, would hand over all the bills in his wallet to any cashier when purchasing something, because he simply doesn't know how to figure out how much he *should* hand over. Unless he can learn this, he'll always need assistance. However, until he decides that this is important enough to learn, he will never learn it.

I bring Tim up because my husband and I know what some of his barriers to independent living (and therefore, I believe, full value-pursuit) are, and think that they might be some clue as to what a potential "bare minimum" knowledge and skill set might be for anyone. I also wanted to hold Tim up as an example of a non-da Vinci type who does pursue his values (very single mindedly, I might add), knows what he's interested in, knows how to acquire knowledge (books, asking friends and family, expanding his collection, etc), and is motivated to do so. Now there are obviously some big differences between Tim and a non-disabled child. Yes, Tim needs to learn some other skills in order to live on his own. But, and I know from experience, it is literally impossible to teach Tim anything. We can't put information into his head--he has to decide it's important enough for him to remember. Tim is an extreme, but I think not uncommon, example of someone who will only learn what he wants and needs to learn. In this respect, I don't think he's much different from the rest of us--even small children. I'm not quite sure how I could force my son to learn anything. I can't make knowledge stick in his head.

I've gone off on a bit of a tangent here--I'm thinking this out as I'm typing. I'm interested in others' thoughts here.

This is a good discussion!

~Jenn


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Sunday, May 8, 2005 - 10:17pmSanction this postReply
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"This is a good discussion!"

1. Well, to some extent, but my problem is the people on my side have not been in the fray recently...and right now I'm being quadruple teamed: David holds me while Kelly punches. Then Jenn and Aquinas give me kidney punches. Then Kelly hold me while David unsheathes his samurai sword... :-)

2. So I'd like to invite others back into the debate who are on my side: A fresh voice and style pointing out things is often good and I can't answer every single "unschooler" post, especially when they are not answering absolutely crucial major points of mine: Laure Chipman and then I already -answered- the unschooler points until the last day or two when I just can't keep up.

3. I'm a bit disappointed that the bulk of the details I've pointed out - and my discussion of a wide range of specific academic subjects, skills, issues of cognitive level, and 'rights' status of children especially in #47, #58, and #69 point 4 - along with Laure's points especially in #13 and part of #36 - have not been directly or fully addressed.

4. Since I get the sense that no one wants to take the time to reread and parse these in detail, this may be close to my last post on this education thread and I will sum up:

a) Laure's posts were mostly about what in the nature of *children* makes unschooling unworkable (with statistically rare exceptions).

b) My posts were mostly about what in the nature of the *knowledge and skills* one crucially, vitally needs to be as fulfilled as one can me makes unschooling unworkable.

--Philip Coates




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Sunday, May 8, 2005 - 10:48pmSanction this postReply
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You might wish to read Peter Breggin's PSYCHOLOGY OF FREEDOM.....

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Monday, May 9, 2005 - 3:32amSanction this postReply
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Philip begs for people to jump in on his side.  I'm not sure I really count as on his side, but I thought I'd add a few thoughts to stir up trouble.

I'm constantly reminded of Thomas Sowell's Inside American Education.  One part that was particularly interesting was where he discusses student evaluations of their teachers.  He dismisses the whole venture as worthless.  It's not that the student will just pick the teacher they liked, or the teacher that was easiest on them.  Either of those (and they're not exclusive of one another) might make the results bad.  But the real issue he raises is that the students don't know what they need to learn.  Being students, they count on the teacher to tell them what kind of knowledge they need.  And this isn't easily remedied. 

The student doesn't know what he doesn't know.  If I asked most of you what things you would need to know in order to do computer engineering, you wouldn't have a clue.  Something about computers?  Some of you could give slightly better answers, but without really knowing the field, you don't even know what you're missing.  Sowell brings this up as a major failing in these evaluations.  The student can believe he's learned a lot, or really was fascinated with a class, but he won't know until he's been in the industry for awhile what information was really useful.  He can't really judge it.

The point is that a child can learn a lot of things if he knows what he's missing and knows how to get at the knowledge he's seeking.  But will the child know what he's missing?  Let me provide two well-known examples.

First, it's often said that those who do not know history are doomed to repeat it.  In this case, the lack of knowledge in the area isn't obvious.  A person doesn't know that he's making the same mistakes that were made in the past.  He doesn't know the past.

A second example hits closer to home on an Objectivist forum.  If you ask a random person on the street why they don't study philosophy, they might tell you it's a bunch of nonsense packaged in confusing terms.  What they probably won't realize is the importance of philosophy on their own lives.  Rand's powerful insight that you are constantly affected by your philosophy, and that everyone has one whether they think they do or not, was not obvious and is still not widely understood.  This is again a case of people not knowing what they don't know.

In general, I'm very optimistic about the child's desire and capacity to learn.  But a desire is not enough.  That's why children need parents.  We live by learning from previous generations.  I think of course the parents have to guide the children...there isn't a way around that.  Maybe it's just an argument about degrees?  But because of the very bold statements being made by the unschoolers, it sounds as if there's a major disagreement.  For instance, a sentence early on in the article said:
When we tell a child that he must learn spelling rather than whatever else he wants to do, we are telling him that our desires for him are more important that his desires for himself.
This sounds like the parent's choices are mere desires, no better or worse than the child's own whim-worshipping desires, and substituting one for the other is just altruism.  But in fact, what a parent substitutes is a reasoned, value-driven choice that is beneficial for the child based on the standard of the child's life.  And they're substituting it for the child's ignorant, range of the moment, irresponsible (children do not need to be responsible and aren't...they don't fend for themselves) whim.  The parent doesn't say "I have my own whim I want you to follow".  They say they know what's best for the child, and they can (hopefully) explain why it's important.  But by calling both of these "desires", it severs the connection to the life of the child, which should be the main concern.

Oh well..it's late.  I hope that satisfies you Philip. 


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Monday, May 9, 2005 - 6:42amSanction this postReply
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Philip,


The point of my posts is not because I want to join in a tag team against you, it is because I feel so strongly about education.

I think you as en educator/intellectual best represent the general arguments that are put forth against unschooling. It is because of this that most of my posts will be addressing your points.

I want for Objectivist parents to give serious reevaluation of their current views on academic education for their children. I  want them also to consider the purpose in having children (which I'm sure our posts will eventually get to) and then how to go about raising their children so that they and their children are truly happy.

I work a lot but I feel like I could post on this subject everyday.

I was somewhat reluctant to let go of my old view of education even after I several of the initial discussions I had with Kelly and David.
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I remember, prior to opening my school (opened school in 2001) and while listening to Lisa Van Damme's tapes (heard them in 1998), thinking to myself, I want to produce kids at a school like Francisco and Kira and the other children. They were so smart, so knowledgeable and they seemed to be enjoying their schooling. I wish I had that type of schooling. Imagine how much better I could be now if I had gone to that school.

It was in 1995 after I had devoured all of Ayn Rand's fiction and nonfiction (I was 21) that I thought to myself,, you know I really don't know much about all of the major subjects. So from that day I stopped watching any tv (except going to the movies) and read and read and read. I started with book reccomendations from Second Renaissance Books (which I checked out at the library) and eventually when I had money, to buying most of their tapes and books. I learned so much so quickly, I learned so easily.

I had some of that experience in my mind when I was opening my school. I thought, I wish I could have had the opportunity to attend Lisa Van Damme's school when I was younger that way I would not have had used my adult life to play academic catch-up. I would be so much more well-rounded. I would be able to talk about pretty much any subject in depth.

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There Philip, maybe you have a little more ammunition but after careful introspection I now realize the proper interpretation to make of these any many other premises that originally led me to support a classical/Objectivist school for young children. I will talk about these in subsequent posts.

I think the intellectual transition I made regarding this subject will be very helpful in this discussion/debate because I still passionately want to have a "school". I also want to start an intellectual foundation that finds young adult (13-16) are contributes (possibly to through scholarships) to the furthering of the study of the academic subject (I'll probably limit it to science, history, philosophy, psychology) they are most passionate about.

Ask me later why I chose those academic subjects to support.

Aquinas


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Post 87

Monday, May 9, 2005 - 8:34amSanction this postReply
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Aquinas,

I think you hit on an essential point here:
The reason they responded so joyously is because just like at the school, they knew we would always try to be fair, we would not criticize, we did not compare them, we were genuinely happy when they succeeded or just attempted.
I think the most important quality of any teacher - in both free and compulsory learning environments - is to transmit love of learning. If this love is encouraged (stimulated, fostered, induced, whatever you want to call it), the child will obviously do the rest. Aquinas, your quote shows precisely the proper attitude needed to successfully teach kids anywhere - both in and out of school.

One thing, though, that has not been covered too much in this discussion is that kids learn by example. One good way an adult can instill a love of learning is by simply displaying his/her own fascination in finding out new stuff. A child will pay VERY CLOSE attention to what such an adult does to get the information he/she wants so badly and is so thrilled to obtain. Children love to play at being grown-up. They love to love what adults love when it is expressed on a level they can identify with.

(Unfortunately, they also love to hate what adults hate too, but that is another issue.)

In the teaching I have done (music - and that was years ago), a well placed "Woah! Look at that! Wow!" did more to get information into kids heads than all the explanations and testing I was able to come up with. Of course, a requirement was to have information at hand.

I applaud Kelly's approach. I wish all adults had the time to do this for their children. Unfortunately many work and/or are engaged in their own pursuits, so time and just being there is a factor. That is why I also think that if this fostering of love-of-learning component is present, the schooling Phillip supports is not only valid, it works too.

Take away love of learning and you get really boring classes (school) or a child completely left to its own devices (Kelly's free approach). Cut off from such encouragement, I do not see much value in either as educational methods.

Michael


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Post 88

Monday, May 9, 2005 - 8:44amSanction this postReply
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Phil, I apologize if it seems I have left you alone to argue our side of the issue (though I have!).  It's just that you always say what I would have said, but your arguments are better-crafted than mine!  Must be that liberal education.  (Being one who doesn't know who Herodotus was, I fear I must organize a "Philistines for Phil" group! ;-) )  I am a software engineer.  I write really nice C++, but my abilities as an essayist are far inferior to yours, Phil.

I am not sure we will get anywhere with this.  There are some fundamental disagreements.  One is "You don't know what you don't know."  Other side says, "Sure you do."  One is "Children are not little adults."  Other side says, "Sure they are."

One point I'd like to make, though, is that what I do is not "forcing" my son to learn.  If there's a way to do that, please let me know.  I cannot tell him, "learn this or I will blow your brains out."  And, since I don't believe in corporal punishment, I don't tell him, "do your homework or I will spank you."  Even this last would leave him a choice; he could always say "I'll take the spanking."  So I think the argument against coercion is a bit spurious.  In reality, we are not forcing our children to go to school.  If I were in a position where I had to physically drag my son to school, of course I wouldn't do it.  I would take it as an indication that there was something terribly wrong at the school, and would remedy the situation.

So, rather than forcing or coercing, what I am arguing for is persuading, encouraging, bribing, etc.  And I don't see anything wrong with that.  In reading Kelly's posts, I sometimes have a twinge of an emotion I am not sure how to characterize; a combination of guilt, regret, and inferiority.  "Why doesn't my son act like a little adult?  Am I a bad mommy?"  Why, I can't even get him to do the dishes without paying him!  But on the other hand, if he doesn't want to do the dishes, I guess I shouldn't be "forcing" him?  Where do you draw the line? 

This idea that a child should never be made to do what he doesn't want to do -- it comes up at least a couple of times a week.  Let's say I want to go shopping, my husband is out of town, my son doesn't want to come with me, but I don't want to leave him home.  Yes, I "force" him to come with me.  What should I do, sacrifice my interests to his?  "No conflict of interest among rational men..." ... could it be that my child cannot be treated as a "rational man" yet?  Because I don't think my desire to go shopping is irrational.  I don't see how you can raise a child with the permissive attitude that he can do whatever he wants, without completely sacrificing yourself.  "While he's in my house," things will be done my way.

Like Phil, I strongly object to the idea that you can just "pick up" whatever learning you are deficient in, whenever you determine that you need to.  If it's just learning a set of facts, sure you can pick it up.  But if it is a field of study, it is built upon a skill set and a knowledge base that may be very hard to fill in on your own. 

Another point (that a professional educator would be much better in arguing than I) is the concept of "readiness".  As I understand it, children develop according to a kind of timetable which differs in specific age, but is similar in structure for all children.  There is a time at which a child is ready to learn to speak, ready to learn to read, ready to learn to do math word problems, ready to learn algebra, etc.  They can learn the skill later than this time, but their brains will have a harder time later.  I think Kelly would argue that this "readiness" will correspond almost perfectly with the child's "interests".  I don't think it's necessarily the case. 

Example:  very small children are better at learning languages.  We taught our son all the Japanese Hiragana when he was two and a half.  If it weren't for us, he would not have known that Japanese existed, so how would he have known that he was ready for it?  We weren't able to provide an environment where he could master Japanese at that point, since my husband and I are only minimally competent at it.  But now at age 8, he has a Japanese tutor helping to prepare him for our upcoming vacation in Kyoto.  I think his early experience has been very helpful in making it easier for him to "pick up" Japanese later.

Sorry if this post is not so well-organized.  I guess it's a natural result of wanting to weigh in on many different things that different people have posted.


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Post 89

Monday, May 9, 2005 - 8:54amSanction this postReply
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Phil said:

but my problem is the people on my side have not been in the fray recently… 

Yes, Phil. I am on your side and I agree with every single word that you’ve said, and more. What else can I add?  Besides, the whole topic of school and education is too sacred and personal for me to get involved in a discussion such as this one.

 

Oh, perhaps a new point of view or perspective? I am not sure who would want my perspective since I have lived in several completely different worlds. You see, both sets of my grandparents were illiterate. My mother didn’t get a chance to go to school until her late teens and she managed to graduate from university in her late 20s. For many years, my father was the sole college graduate in his home county of several hundred thousands populations. My parents always have this firm belief that the next generation has to do better in life than the last, and a better education is, according to their understanding, the only mean to achieve that. In my case, they are absolutely right. I myself have never left school since age 6: elementary school, middle school, university, graduate school, and now I work in a university mentoring other students. My station in life today has exceeded the wildest dream that I (and my family) could never had.

 

Today, if you go to any higher research institutions, any leading biotech or computer and engineering companies in US, you will find tremendous number of foreign scientists and engineers working there. They are from India, China, former Soviet Union, Turkey, Middle East, and even Africa. They unproportionally outnumbered their American counterparts. But I have never for a second believed that American kids are worse in math and science. I also know first hand the superior quality of the students and curriculum (science and engineering) in one of the best American universities. Yes, I have to say that there are big problems in the K-12 education in US, and even bigger problem in the general mentality of parents as to how to bring up their kids. Another interesting point to ponder is that, Jewish families have traditionally emphasized on education, and you can see large proportions of high-achievers from Jewish people in all areas of US society.

 
I am not an economist. But as I see things around me, in US, the necessary menial jobs have been the specialties of legal or illegal immigrants. The low-tech jobs have been largely outsourced to China, Mexico and other developing countries. The high-tech industry and scientific research laboratories, which give US a still leading edge in the world, are now filled with the best brains from other countries. So who are the movers and producers in US today? What will happen to US 20 or 50 years from today? From my narrow perspective, that’s what worries me the most about general K-12 education in US. It is not whether my son will be “happy” or not at any given time in his life. It’s what will he be “happy” about 20 or 40 years from now. He will not have unearned self-esteem and false-confidence. He will have to have something to show for it. That’s my and my husband’s philosophy in educating our son. To yield our combined 77 years of knowledge, wisdom, and life experiences to baby’s whims is utterly incomprehensible to us.


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Monday, May 9, 2005 - 9:05amSanction this postReply
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Only time for a quick post, but I have a burning question.

Where are some getting the idea that Kelly, et. al. (I guess myself included) are advocating treating children as little adults? I don't see that. I think that children are far more capable than most adults realize and that's what this "side" is getting at. Children are most certainly and obviously not adults.

I'm genuinely confused on this point. Could someone please clarify?

Thanks,

~Jenn



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Post 91

Monday, May 9, 2005 - 9:22amSanction this postReply
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Phillip,

I am in general agreement with you, so I will try to add something.

This statement by Nathaniel Branden:

"The essence of parental responsibility is: to equip the child for independent survival as an adult."

Contained here:
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/ess/que02.html

Elsewhere in one (or perhaps more) of his books NB has defined maturity in people as the ability and the confidence to know that they can find out anything they need to know to solve any problem they encounter on their way to achieving their life goals. Not that they know everything, but they can can find information if they need it and they have the intellectual tools to understand it. Somewhere in between birth and this mature state it seems to me that the parents responsibility, to the best of their ability, is to provide the opportunity for the child to develope this maturity. Leaving the immature child to totally decide themselves, their education is a "sink or swim" attitude that seems a little callous to me. It may work in some isolated cases with a particular set of parents as role models and certain gifted children but only as exceptions not the rule.

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Jenn, it could be that we're exaggerating when we say that Kelly wants to treat children as little adults.  To me, it seems to be what she is saying.  One specific example is that Kelly believes children of all ages should exclusively pursue their own interests, and not have a teacher or a parent try to actively teach them something they did not seek out on their own.  Fair statement?

We old-fogie traditionalists believe that kids do not know what is best for them in all cases.  I don't think that ANYONE on this board would think it was right to dissuade a child from pursuing whatever productive interest he developed!  Quite the contrary. 

I think that children need a push to get them going, even when they have stated that they have a particular interest.  Let's take summertime for schoolchildren as an example.  I currently telecommute, so in the past I have put Peter into summer programs so that I can work without being bothered.  At his age now, I wouldn't really need to do that; he can entertain himself.  However, I still feel that more structure can help him to make better use of his time in the summer.  This year, I asked him, "What are you interested in learning this summer?  Any special skills you'd like to pick up?"  Kids have all this free time in the summer; I figure they should spend it focusing on what's important to them.  Peter's answer:  "I don't know."  So I signed him up for a writing workshop and some tennis lessons (he's totally not a team-sports kind of guy, but I think it would be good for him to learn a "lifetime sport" of some kind).  Peter's reaction:  "OK."

In a nutshell, I think that young children need some degree of artificial motivation, that they should be taught the things adults think are important, that they sometimes are naturally lazy.  Also, it's not a on-off switch:  I will not control every aspect of Peter's life until he turns 18, at which time I will throw the switch and expect him to make his own decisions.  It's a gradual process of increasing responsibility and freedom over the years.  We need to provide an environment that eases the child into responsible, self-directed, self-motivated adulthood.  Along the way, there will be artificial motivators.  Babies do things to make mommy happy.  Young children do chores in exchange for money or favors.  My goal is that once he turns 18, Peter will do his own laundry and dishes without me paying him, and will make his own choices and pursue his own goals for his own reasons and not just to please his folks.  I don't think that Kelly is right in thinking that this can't happen unless you let your two-year-old make all of his own choices and pursue his own goals.


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Monday, May 9, 2005 - 10:00amSanction this postReply
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Oh my, Laure, my 8 year old boy is also a Peter...

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Leaving the immature child to totally decide themselves, their education is a "sink or swim" attitude that seems a little callous to me. It may work in some isolated cases with a particular set of parents as role models and certain gifted children but only as exceptions not the rule.

I think that pretty much sums up my views on this as well and I am not willing to leave my children completely to their own devices. I am not opposed to home schooling, but I do believe that children need the structure, educational guidance, expertise in subjects taught and social opportunities provided by schools. I personally would not be able to provide my children a full enough education without the help of school. I would be totally lost if I had to educate my kids totally on my own. If I was able to dedicate myself 24/7 to my kids' education, I would still feel like I wasn't putting enough into it, so I send them to school.  It works for us.

I also have an immense admiration for those who can produce well-educated and well-rounded home schooled children. I have no doubt that Kelly and David will be able to pull it off extremely well, especially since Kelly found great success with her experience in teaching in an actual school. 

Some of the vital components in the pursuit of education that have been pointed out in this thread are love of learning, motivation/encouragement and loving guidance focusing on the child's particular interests as well as having caring adults to gently guide the children in their educational pursuits. In my book, these things can come from school, home or both simultaneously. So it is not so much a matter of school or unschool, but how and where can the child's educational needs be met in his or her particular situation.

I have seen in public schools an integrated approach in various subjects based on a theme which I think is rather interesting. Say the theme chosen is astronauts.  I choose this example because Sean at one time wanted to be a space ranger just like Buzz Lightyear and they did a unit on space where all the subjects, reading, history, science, etc. all revolved around the same theme. It was kinda cool. I think this is the type of thing that the home/unschoolers have known for a long time and the bureaucrats of the school systems are just starting to pick up on.  It all ties into making education relevant to the interests of the kids and showing how academics apply to life.  This is a way of encouraging a lifelong love of learning which, as Michael pointed out, is so vitally important.

(Edited by katdaddy on 5/09, 10:36am)


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I'm still thinkin' on this one. My experience is teaching music privately. You really get to know a student working so closely. I've taught 500-700 people at this point, mostly in the 13-17 age group.

There are kids who come through who find great joy in contemplation and intellectual honesty. I can and do talk with them about things there that we talk about here. Last week, for instance, I had a few kids trying to make sense of Nietzsche's "Convictions are more dangerous enemies of truth than lies" while I was tuning their guitar or writing something out. Some kids really enjoy that kind of thing. Others are intimidated at first and then get into it. Still others hate being tested on anything. I don't have the answer for why some kids are comfortable and others not but trust plays a major part. Self-trust and teacher-trust.

"What did you learn in skool today?" "We just reviewed stuff." That's their answer 90% of the time. Public skools, with rare exceptions, are babysitting services. The ones who do get excited about the public skool material seem to think they are playing a life-long game of Trivial Pursuit.

Public skools: no way! But un-skooling?



PS to Phil: could use your input in the General Forum on "Floating Abstractions."

(Edited by Lance Moore on 5/09, 11:32am)


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>Oh well..it's late. I hope that satisfies you Philip.

Yes, it [#85] really does. It complements, supplements, and adds further detail. And your writing style is lucid and jargon free as usual. Thank you, Joe!

You gave not -one- but multiple examples drawn from different areas or ages (college students, knowing history, knowing philosophy, and children's whims re spelling ) which should be convincing to people who try to refute or get hung up on one single example. Great!!

Phil

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Laure,

 

I hope you don’t mind too much but I’m going to “take apart” your post.

 

There are some fundamental disagreements.  One is "You don't know what you don't know."  Other side says, "Sure you do."  One is "Children are not little adults."  Other side says, "Sure they are."

 

For the record I’ve never said you know what you don’t know. That does not make sense. I said that for the most part what a child needs to know at any given time is for him to determine (He is not in an empty room his whole life, he sees things around in his many experiences of interacting with the world, including people).

 

I also never said a child is a little adult. If you meant to imply that by given him many opportunities to choose his values in his life I am treating him like a little adult, that might make more sense, but I would say that I am treating him like a person.

”One point I'd like to make, though, is that what I do is not "forcing" my son to learn.”

 

To the extent that you are choosing to send him to a school you are forcing him to learn, when you deem it appropriate.

 

 

“If there's a way to do that, please let me know.  I cannot tell him, "learn this or I will blow your brains out." 

 

Do you think that only if it gets to the extreme of that statement then we are in the realm of force?

 

 

“And, since I don't believe in corporal punishment, I don't tell him, "do your homework or I will spank you."  Even this last would leave him a choice; he could always say "I'll take the spanking."”

 

I think you should really reexamine the last part of this statement. Are you saying there is a real choice when one of the options for the child is possibility of being spanked?

 

“So I think the argument against coercion is a bit spurious.  In reality, we are not forcing our children to go to school.  If I were in a position where I had to physically drag my son to school, of course I wouldn't do it.  I would take it as an indication that there was something terribly wrong at the school, and would remedy the situation.”

 

To address this part of your argument I would need to find out whether or not you accept the premise that there is a continuum as far as what constitutes force. It seems like your definition, at least in regards to children might mainly (or only include) the range from spanking to “I’ll blow your brains out.”




So, rather than forcing or coercing, what I am arguing for is persuading, encouraging, bribing, etc. 

 

I find it revealing that you include bribing with persuasion and encouragement.

 

And I don't see anything wrong with that.  In reading Kelly's posts, I sometimes have a twinge of an emotion I am not sure how to characterize; a combination of guilt, regret, and inferiority.  "Why doesn't my son act like a little adult?  Am I a bad mommy?"  Why, I can't even get him to do the dishes without paying him! 

 

“But on the other hand, if he doesn't want to do the dishes, I guess I shouldn't be "forcing" him?  Where do you draw the line?”

 

That is a good question.

This idea that a child should never be made to do what he doesn't want to do -- it comes up at least a couple of times a week.  Let's say I want to go shopping, my husband is out of town, my son doesn't want to come with me, but I don't want to leave him home.  Yes, I "force" him to come with me.  What should I do, sacrifice my interests to his?  "No conflict of interest among rational men..." ... could it be that my child cannot be treated as a "rational man" yet?  Because I don't think my desire to go shopping is irrational.  I don't see how you can raise a child with the permissive attitude that he can do whatever he wants, without completely sacrificing yourself.  "While he's in my house," things will be done my way.


Laure in this paragraph you raise a very good point: how do you balance your values with your child’s without being altruistic?


Like Phil, I strongly object to the idea that you can just "pick up" whatever learning you are deficient in, whenever you determine that you need to.  If it's just learning a set of facts, sure you can pick it up.  But if it is a field of study, it is built upon a skill set and a knowledge base that may be very hard to fill in on your own. 

 

I think you actually answered part of your objection by partially describing the learning process. I’d like to hear what subject/ field of study a child cannot eventually learn by picking up the initial facts that their intellectual context can handle. No one is denying that a child learns things in stages. If a child develops some interest on their own in any academic subject can’t they be given books that are appropriate to their current intellectual understanding.


”Another point (that a professional educator would be much better in arguing than I) is the concept of "readiness".  As I understand it, children develop according to a kind of timetable which differs in specific age, but is similar in structure for all children.  There is a time at which a child is ready to learn to speak, ready to learn to read, ready to learn to do math word problems, ready to learn algebra, etc.  They can learn the skill later than this time, but their brains will have a harder time later.  I think Kelly would argue that this "readiness" will correspond almost perfectly with the child's "interests".  I don't think it's necessarily the case.” 

 

I’m not sure Kelly would argue that a child’s interest necessarily correspond with this supposed “readiness” (even if this “readiness” were scientifically verifiable it would not change my response). I think it has been scientifically demonstrated that it is biologically healthier for a female to have children when they are somewhere around 18. Even if this is true I would not encourage/persuade my daughter to have children then. Her goals/values are for her to decide on her timetable



 

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”We old-fogie traditionalists believe that kids do not know what is best for them in all cases.”

 

Speaking for myself, I don’t believe kids know what is best for themselves in ALL cases.

 

 “I don't think that ANYONE on this board would think it was right to dissuade a child from pursuing whatever productive interest he developed!  Quite the contrary.”

 

In your opinion what is a permissible productive endeavor for a young child (3-10 yrs of age) to pursue (I specifically say pursue because I want to differentiate from developed as that might have initially resulted from parental interference).

”I think that children need a push to get them going, even when they have stated that they have a particular interest.  Let's take summertime for schoolchildren as an example.  I currently telecommute, so in the past I have put Peter into summer programs so that I can work without being bothered.  At his age now, I wouldn't really need to do that; he can entertain himself.” 

 

If he can truly entertain himself without affecting you pursuing your goals what is wrong with him choosing to hang out at home.

 

 

 “However, I still feel that more structure can help him to make better use of his time in the summer.”

 

Why can’t he decide what is a better use of his time?

 

“This year, I asked him, "What are you interested in learning this summer?  Any special skills you'd like to pick up?"  Kids have all this free time in the summer; I figure they should spend it focusing on what's important to them.” 

 

You really don’t think if given the freedom your child would not decide to do something that he thought was worth his time or are you afraid he might choose something that you think should not be worth his time. It seems like from these statements that you feel like your child needs to be "learning" all the time. By your putting the question in a "learning context" you might actually be contradicting the last part of your senetence when you say he should spend his time on what is important to him. 

 

 

 Peter's answer:  "I don't know."  So I signed him up for a writing workshop and some tennis lessons (he's totally not a team-sports kind of guy, but I think it would be good for him to learn a "lifetime sport" of some kind).  Peter's reaction:  "OK."

 

Do you think if Peter had to decide each day of the summer how to spend his day he would say, I don’t know? I have to say that I think part of this “I don’t know” problem is because he was told what to do so often (although I would assume it was a lot less than most children experience). If he had experienced from a very young age that he had to figure out a lot of what he wanted to do this would not happen. It is an interesting coincidence that soooooo many high school/ college graduates have the same response when asked what they want to do next in life. But is it really so surprising when you consider that since a young age they have been told what they should do, for how long and when (school from age 5-18) regardless of what they wanted to do.



”In a nutshell, I think that young children need some degree of artificial motivation, that they should be taught the things adults think are important, that they sometimes are naturally lazy.”

 

In all of my 12 years coaching I have not met one lazy child between the ages of 18 months and about 4 or 5 years old.

 

  “It's a gradual process of increasing responsibility and freedom over the years.  We need to provide an environment that eases the child into responsible, self-directed, self-motivated adulthood.”

 

I generally agree with this statement but it looks like we disagree about when this freedom and to what extent it should begin.

 

 “Along the way, there will be artificial motivators.  Babies do things to make mommy happy.”

 

I don’t want to encourage things that make my child’s primary motivation for doing something to be because they want to make me happy. I’m not saying that I don’t appreciate when my child does do something that makes me happy.

 

 

I hope that this approach to Laure’s post does not discourage anyone else from posting their thoughts on this subject.

 

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Hong, I don't really understand how someone can feel passionate about a subject and not want to discuss it. I would assume the more sacred you feel about something the more you would want interested parties to hear about it. I'm interested.

 
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This post will address several of Phil's points on education and "unschooling." -- The quotes are all his.

 As I mentioned, I think up until well past the Montessori age, letting kids totally follow their natural curiosity may make perfect sense.
"Well past"? What age might it be? Same age for every child? How will Phil know they are ready for instruction? Which instruction for which children? What about the Da Vinci's? How do you tell a Da Vinci from an Edison (who was "unschooled")? Why does Da Vinci get to follow his natural curiosity for as long as he wishes while others must endure coercion? At which point will Phil and his army whisk the "average" child away to enforced seating and education? What would be the measure for determining that it is now time for the child's values to be replaced by the values of others?
The "natural curiosity" that Phil mentions has already driven children to learn all about their surroundings and how to construct compound complex sentences by the time they are five -- without a formal teacher. They are sponges. They are ruthlessly logical, unless it has been beat out of them, literally or figuratively. They move easily from the their obsession with the sensory world into the abstract world of reading, math, puzzles, building and speaking. This usually moves seemlessly again into an interaction with reality on a higher level: music, art, sports, philosophy (Kelly once heard an 8-year-old say that Plato must have been crazy when the child heard of Plato's "forms"), discussion, literature, video games, chess -- or tradesman-type stuff like simple mechanics or fishing or cooking or dress-making or garden-growing. At this level, the child usually gets interested in things in the world outside his home and why people do things: religion, killing, politics, etc. The attentive and caring parent usually enjoys this phase and is glad to answer questions and point to source materials. And this is the point that Phil and others believe the child must be forced to sit in front of a teacher to "learn" about the world that they are already asking questions about and learning about at their own pace. I want to remind everyone that we are talking about a theoretical objective world in this discussion in which parents care about ideas, care about their kids, care about being active, care about attaining values, care about virtues, care about being happy, care about being interactive and joyous.

 The reason a good teacher and mastery of a core curriculum -- English, Math, Science, History -- is vital (as is finding good schools, which DO EXIST) is that you can't just "snap bang" pick up all the stuff you didn't find interesting years ago.
This is wrong. A child can "snap bang pick up all the stuff" he wishes to learn in weeks or months. I've already pointed you folks to the Sudbury sites for evidence on this matter. The child simply finds out where to start: arithmetic, fractions, grammar, etc., and proceeds from there, seeking help or not. I don't understand this obsession with chronology of learning. Any child who starts trying to learn any subject at any time will simply start from the beginning. I'm a bit baffled at Phil's belaboring this point. Of course, the consequent learning will be hierarchichal. It has to be -- but not necessarily chronological.

Modern political issues in America about religion, race, gender won't fully make sense unless you have not just memorized but understand the Protestant Reformation, Reconstruction, etc.
The rationale of modern politics, religion and race will be understood by any rational child. THAT is what is important for their survival and happiness. The child does not have to know about the Reformation or Counter-Reformation or Reconstruction or Revolution or fricking Robespierre or whatever to have a productive career or a happy life or a clear idea of what category people and ideas belong. This may be the most poignant example of Phil's error on this topic: His presumption that child's heads need to be filled with this history or with higher math or literature or whatever. Moreover, not just filled with it but filled with it ON HIS TIMETABLE. (Btw, I've found that children usually ask about religion about the age of 5 or 6, and some wish to know a lot about it while others don't) The topics Phil mentions can give children or anyone else context for understanding things relative to time and opinions, but that context can be learned at any time if and when a child or adult decides he wishes to learn it. It is not vital to his survival, and therefore coercion must not be used to force it down his throat when he wishes to learn other things more vital to his values.

And there ain't no f**king shortcuts.
Indeed, there are not, and that is exactly what Phil wishes to exact upon children. He wishes to get them on the fast-track of learning, in a direction of his choosing, to an end he delineates. He believes that this coercion will get them to the point of happiness by directing them, cajoling them, massaging them, exhorting them. This is in fact a shortcut -- rather a short-circuiting. It short-circuits volition. It gets the child used to being told what to do, what to look at, what values others have that are more important than is own. It is precisely this kind of coercive short-circuiting that is the foundation for the psychoepistemological wrecks that all humans have made of themselves to one degree or another -- and find virtually impossible to clean up.

You can't skip the Math in grade school or later because you need it to fully understand the Science. You can't skip the Science because you need it to assess what you might like to do, to understand a complex technological world, and you need the scientific method to learn how to think logically, without which -nothing else- is possible. You can't skip the English or let it slide for years at a time - including the grammar, the vocabulary, and the literature - because you can't think, communicate, understand yourself without them. You can't skip the History (and geography) because then you don't even recognize the planet you live in.

I addressed the fallacy of chronological hierarchy already, but I'll address more of the alleged informational sine qua nons that Phil hypes here.
(1) You can go back and get your basic math and learn it in just weeks. That's all that is vitally needed for a happy life, unless your career is math oriented.
(2) You DO NOT need science to "assess what you might like to do" or to "understand a complex technological world." I know many avowed science illiterates who know quite well how to operate their computers (there are manuals, after all), their PDAs, their car navigation systems. They can look through telescopes and electron microscopes with the best of them and ask questions about what they are seeing, if they are curious.
(3) You don't need English or grammar for some jobs, and you don't need literature for 99.9% of jobs. You need English for most, and most kids who are given free rein are quite happy about learning English and reading and writing because they are fascinated by it. (My 20-month-old girl insists that I read her "Five Monkeys Jumping on a Bed" and a score of other kids books all the time. Occasionally, when I just feel like reading to her, I'll start reading Five Monkeys or something else, and 90% of the time she'll come running and jump in my lap. I highly doubt that she'll choose not to read and write by the time she is 5 or so, but that'll be her choice.) And, contrary to what Phil says, kids CAN think and communicate quite well, thank you, without a speck of instruction on English, grammar and literature. In fact, if the parents are literate and grammatically correct, the child learns this seemingly by osmosis. Doesn't take a class.
(4) The geography example is just plain ludicrous. A kid won't recognize what planet he lives on without taking a class?! Come now, let's not get carried away. Kids age 4 to 7 are fascinated at the size and shape of the Earth, and they know by just listening that the planet they are walking on is called Earth. Hell, a 15-month-old of a friend of ours knew and used the word "ceiling" without the parents ever teaching the child the word. Doesn't take a class. I remember having dreams of sitting on the moon looking back at the Earth when I was just 7, after watching something on the Apollo program on TV.

This post has gotten long, so I'll address some of Phil's other errors in another post, including his mistaken belief that children have to have a "well-rounded" education to flourish. I'll not have a sleepless night if my child never knows of the brave Greeks at Thermopylae. I'll enjoy discussing that famous battle and the deceit that lost the stronghold, if she ever decides she's interested in that history. But I'll thrill at discussing whatever it is that she has CHOSEN to know, and to love the discussion even more because she'll surely be on fire with enthusiasm -- with her volition fully intact!


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Monday, May 9, 2005 - 10:24pmSanction this postReply
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The challenge of unskooling is to create desire in a child. A student who has that fire will be fine (though guidance can help their development in amazing ways) no matter what you do.

But most kids do not have that fire. To wait for such a kid to discover their own direction without "interfering" can not possibly be the best decision. That would make parenting years a total bore for one thing. "What's little Susie up to? Studying her calculus?" "No, she's just sittin' there. Sittin' in her chair."

Perhaps I'm setting up a straw man. I hope so.

I think the best course of action is to clearly present the child with a catalogue of options. Soccer, chess, golf, karate, violin, chemistry, whiffle ball, Latin, etc and have the child select 3 (or whatever number) of subjects to study intensely. And then introduce new subjects as the child progresses. An idle child becomes a wretched and needy adult.

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