|I enjoyed the article as well. As to Adam's question about how women see men, well, I think it's the same. Across cultures it has been found that people are attracted to people who smile for their partners, or friends. I think it does have a lot to do with the attitude you perceive when you see someone smile. A smile radiates a happiness, a confidence with the self, and when you see it on another person that's someone you feel compelled to want to be around. And I do believe it not only works for the opposite sex, but for same gender friendships as well. Maybe not for men so much, but you can write a response for that question if so inclined. I know whether I see a man or a woman and they have this smile, and laughter going, and this energy which just shouts I love life, and I love living, that it is someone I want to be around and get to know. I've also walked by people who are always scowling and look like they've never had a wonderful, fulfilling moment in life, and while I don't think of them beyond the moment when I see them, the one reaction I have to that face is, how sad. I've been a "smiler" all my life, people either always comment on the fact that I am always smiling and how wonderful it is or people tend to ask if I ever frown, and I'm happy to say, that it doesn't happen often. |
I think it is a natural tendency to gravitate toward the people who seem happy or present themselves as confident, either because the person sees something similar in themselves and appreciates the beauty of what it means to love life and one's self, or there are some people I think who gravitate toward the smile because it represents something they haven't been able to fulfill in their own life, so they want to be around someone who has and perhaps learn how to reach the point where they themselves can smile and laugh and understand what prompts it.